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The other day for some reason I decided to really stay in present time as much as I could, while not actually doing anything. I was feeling quite at peace with my world and had no particular reason to stress about anything.
I relaxed into feeling very happy and content, lazing in a comfy chair under a bright window—tuning in to the moment. Then I became aware of subliminal, almost pre-verbal concerns… “is there something I should watch out for? Shouldn’t I be keeping a better lookout? Am I being careful enough? If I stay right in the present I might miss something I need to know about, or be thinking through”.
These barely-perceptible worries seemed to be basic cave-woman fears… “I’d better keep a watch-out or I might be in trouble”.
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What to do when someone close to us is struggling in life?
We have tried to help them as best as we can, with ideas, support and practical help, but they don’t “get it”. Or maybe we are not even in contact with them to do that much.
It can be painful watching them suffer, especially if we feel there are things “out there” that they could find helpful, but they aren’t interested.
A proverb featuring a horse and water might spring to mind.
Last weekend, Frank and I attended The Journey Intensive, a two-day healing workshop, here in Melbourne. It was presented by its creator, Brandon Bays.
It was great, and we got what we wanted, which was to move up a level (or a few) in our quest to be all we can be. We had both been feeling a little stuck, recently. Continue reading
photo by Victor Bezrukov
I thought I’d like to write about what emotional balance means to me. As I mentioned in an earlier post Feelings Are There To Be Felt, I haven’t quite got emotions “worked out”. But I’ve needed to focus on mine lots so I reckon I should really be an expert by now. Ha.
In my younger days I was very withheld emotionally. No-one knew what I thought, or how I felt. I didn’t know how I felt. At school I was very quiet and awkward, and didn’t connect much. One time a group of kids made a list of everyone in the class, with a brief description, to submit to the school magazine. For me they put “Silent Brain”. I misread this and thought it said “Silent Drain”—I was extremely upset! (inside) (It didn’t make the magazine.)
The only time I felt love was for the cat.
photo by Capture Queen
I loved a comment on my previous post from Maya over at Completely Coastal. She said, in part, “I think that positive thinking alone doesn’t create the desired outcome/reality if the negative energy (feeling) is not felt and released, “Feeling is Healing” comes to mind.”
I think she’s quite right!
After my little Iceberg Series (which may yet have another installment), I wanted to write a post about how feelings work together with thoughts—working with thoughts alone can be, so, icy. But I was feeling a tad underqualified… I’m far from having sorted my own feelings. Then I thought… well, no-one else really has either, so I’ll give it a go.
I have a magic trick that always works for me in relationship problems.
This is a trick I mainly use in my relationship with my partner Frank. It applies to any kind of relationship, and I use it on other ones too, but for me this trick has come into focus from using it in our life-partner-type relationship. It’s something I’ve used when I have been feeling exasperated, sad or plain desperate about either a specific event or some ongoing thing I’m not happy about.
My experience from using this trick has been to see transformation of the problem… into a non-event or even into a miraculous opposite—some of the developments have amazed me.
photo by Frenkieb
I’d like to suggest that for some people “the world” is getting better and better, and for others it is getting worse and worse. And that we get to choose which group we are in.
I’d imagine that anyone dropping by here would be firmly in the “getting better” camp, as far as their own personal life goes, anyway, but I thought I’d still like to write about this.
Recently Marelisa from Abundance Blog at Marelisa-Online wrote a great article about gratitude over at The Change Blog.
This gave me the idea of looking up The Door of Everything by Ruby Nelson, because I remembered it had something about gratitude. The Door of Everything is a channelled book, authored by “the guiding voice of Father consciousness at the centre of your soul”.
The chapter The Ascension Attitudes explains that love, praise and gratitude are the “keys to the kingdom of true Being”. It says these three attitudes are in fact inseparable, and suggests we could concentrate on all three or just one if we find it more natural. I found this about gratitude:
The vibration of gratitude is such a mighty creative force that it alone, if indulged continuously, could uplift you free of the sub-creation more rapidly than you realize.
I thought I’d try focusing on feeling grateful as much as possible—firstly for all the usual suspects like the house, Frank and my computer. Then I added in things like the ground I was walking on, the air I was breathing and the blue sky. All of this definitely inspired a warm glow, and I felt I was on target for being seriously uplifted.
None of us would want to stay alive forever if we were old and sick and in pain and lonely and depressed and all that. I would assume.
So how can we stay young and healthy indefinitely? I’m 54 myself, so I haven’t exactly proved one can live indefinitely, but I’ll have a go at putting together some thoughts about staying young that I have picked up from my own life and around the place. Here are some things we can do:
photo from the Maldives by notsogoodphotography
I wrote this piece (I wouldn’t go as far as calling it a poem) a few years ago. Now that blogs have been invented it gets an outing!