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The other day for some reason I decided to really stay in present time as much as I could, while not actually doing anything. I was feeling quite at peace with my world and had no particular reason to stress about anything.
I relaxed into feeling very happy and content, lazing in a comfy chair under a bright window—tuning in to the moment. Then I became aware of subliminal, almost pre-verbal concerns… “is there something I should watch out for? Shouldn’t I be keeping a better lookout? Am I being careful enough? If I stay right in the present I might miss something I need to know about, or be thinking through”.
These barely-perceptible worries seemed to be basic cave-woman fears… “I’d better keep a watch-out or I might be in trouble”.
I’m guessing that most people have these fears running to some extent, either subliminally or not-so-subliminally. Assuming that most of us don’t have a bull-dozer about to crash in through the window, are these fears helpful?
My vote is “no”, because they stop us from being in present time, and our attention needs to be in the present for us to have clear access to the intuitive guidance that will actually keep us safe and sound. And happy and fulfilled.
For example, if there really is a bull-dozer about to crash in though the window, we might miss the intuitive impulse to jump aside if we are too busy thinking through what we are going to do in this or that imaginary future situation.
It’s all about trust
If we can trust we are in a safe universe, and nothing will “get” us, we become more able to tune into our inner guidance, and we actually experience the universe becoming safer and safer.
Recently I found the following words:
“The incarnational process is a process of relaxation.”
~ from Return of the Bird Tribes (Ken Carey)
This comes from a section of the book that describes how we can move into full expression by trusting ourselves and letting go of our fears. By letting go of struggling, straining and holding on.
From this concept and elsewhere, I’ve put together a few tips for letting go of fears (the kind we know deep down aren’t serving us):
• observe ourselves feeling them
• allow our breathing to keep flowing rather than stopping and starting
• choose to focus on how we actually are right at the moment
• choose to see that the situation that seems to cause the fears is not really a source of danger
• choose to put less energy into activities we suspect are motivated by anxiety
• choose to put more energy into activities motivated by love, fun and excitement
• try the philosophy of physical immortality on for size… when we know inside that the guy with the big flyswatter doesn’t have to get us, a thousand and one subliminal fears drop away.
I’d like to expand this last point just a little… I’m not referring to fear of death itself here. I think that for many of us, though we may believe we go to a safe, loving place after physical death, we hold in our bodies many fears of the events that lead to it (aging, illness, loneliness, accidents, violence), mostly unconsciously, and it is these fears I am referring to.
Also, I don’t think we need to die physically in order to get to the safe, loving place of our dreams, but rather it is our purpose in these times to create that place with our physical bodies along for the ride.
If you would like more insights about dealing with fears, you might like to check out Chris Edgar’s post on Purpose Power Coaching: A Simple But Life-Changing Question: Are You In Danger? He suggests we could ask ourselves in certain situations “Am I in danger?” Usually the answer is no, not really. It’s a great post! (And I started developing my post before reading Chris’s – honest!)
Also, Betsy Wuebker from Passing Thru has a lovely post about surrender: Surrender, Consecration And Freedom, which fits very nicely with the theme of relaxing.
Thirdly, some of you may remember my interview: Janni Lloyd, An Aussie Immortalist. Well, Akemi Gaines of Yes to Me has interviewed her too, here: Interview With Dr Janni Lloyd On Physical Immortality.