photo by Savannah Grandfather
We find real happiness by sensing our intuitive impulses and acting upon them.
That’s it, there is no other way.
My point is that this process is individual. It won’t be the same for any two people. We sense our intuition deeply inside ourselves—it’s deeply personal. Only we know what our intuition feels like, and only we know what we need to do to act on it, and how we feel about that.
If we look at what makes someone else happy, and then do that thing, we may feel happiness, but the experience might also be empty. If someone says: “Do this! It’s great! It made me so happy!”… well it might work for us, but if it made them happy it was because they were following their intuition at the time, and it might not be what our intuition is telling us.
Meditating won’t make us happy if our intuition is telling us to go shopping in the city (we might need the energy of motion).
Traveling won’t make us happy if our intuition is saying to stay home and make a garden (we might start having it off with the gardener).
Health food won’t make us happy if our intuition is saying fast food (who knows who we might meet in the take-out joint).
Finding a job won’t make us happy if our intuition is saying DON”T DO IT! (Having little money might teach us something about our values.)
The intuition challenge
Our intuition is wild and unpredictable, and will send us in the direction of the most growth. This direction may take us away from our own sacred cows, and away from what other people expect of us.
So we will invariably need some courage to follow it, at some point.
I don’t mean that the things it tells us to do, or not do, will necessarily be wild and over-the-top, but that they might be challenging for us.
For example, someone with a history of being afraid of intimacy might get an intuitive impulse to share something very personal with someone close—this might be a challenge for them. Or someone who has always been vague about money might get the urge to start doing some book-keeping, or hire an accountant. If someone has a habit of complicating everything in their life, they might be lead to going with the flow. And someone may have a business idea that is a bit scary for them.
When we get used to following own own intuition (rather than someone else’s), we start to really know ourselves. We have experimented, won, lost, and seen what works. We have got to know what was intuition and what was emotional reactions or silly ideas. We are tried and tested.
Also, when we get to this point, we know we know ourselves, and I think this is the basis of real happiness. Now, for most of the time, the things we do are satisfying, our relationships are satisfying, our possessions are satisfying, and if we have to say “no” to something, it’s no big deal.
When people don’t know themselves, they start filling themselves up from the outside, and the results aren’t very pretty. They might travel around the world, buy lots of outfits, go to the best parties, keep busy busy busy… but they always feel empty inside. They know they don’t know themselves (and they are desperate to hide this fact from everyone).
I think those of us with even moderately successful lives know how to follow our intuition very well, and as we get older we develop more faith in our inner “knowing” and feel happier as we get older as a result. And I think anyone with a basically positive outlook on life experiences this growth naturally as a part of life.
I believe we can reach the “knowing” and “happier” bit sooner by honing our intuition… that is, by getting really good at sensing it and acting on it.
This post is inspired very much by Shakti Gawain’s book Living In The Light, which I have listed on my Recommended page. I love this book—I have read it many times over the years. I prefer the first edition to the second… the paperback has a yellow cover.
What do you think about this? Have you found strength and happiness from tuning into your own guidance?