Comments on: A Magic Trick For Relationships http://letsliveforever.net/2008/07/a-magic-trick-for-relationships/ We can live forever in our human physical body if we want to. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 10:32:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Robin http://letsliveforever.net/2008/07/a-magic-trick-for-relationships/#comment-277 Robin Mon, 04 Aug 2008 02:08:57 +0000 http://letsliveforever.net/?p=65#comment-277 Hi Kelly - I wish I could be more specific about our relationship on this blog - but that wouldn't be fair on Frank! I do find I am more free and easy about it when I write on other people's blogs! ;=) It's really great to hear about your relationship - and FANTASTIC to hear about how this mirror technique has been working for you! And all the best with the floor! (and thanks about the pic) Hi Kelly - I wish I could be more specific about our relationship on this blog - but that wouldn’t be fair on Frank! I do find I am more free and easy about it when I write on other people’s blogs! ;=) It’s really great to hear about your relationship - and FANTASTIC to hear about how this mirror technique has been working for you! And all the best with the floor! (and thanks about the pic)

]]> By: Kelly@SHE-POWER http://letsliveforever.net/2008/07/a-magic-trick-for-relationships/#comment-268 Kelly@SHE-POWER Sun, 03 Aug 2008 07:11:52 +0000 http://letsliveforever.net/?p=65#comment-268 Robin, I swear I knew you were an Australian as soon as I saw your photo. Don't know why, but it was an instant thought. Maybe it's my trusty intuition - I can pick a fellow Aussie and Kiwi in a crowd of other nationalities, even without hearing an accent. But back to this post, love the picture of you and Frank. You look sos serene - really beautiful energy there. And I use your trick too. I call it the mirror. I've had a lot of frustrations with my family over the years and I've used this technique to move our relationship to a level where I don't feel like my emotions are at their mercy. I also find boundaries and expectations are important, particularly in romantic partnerships. My husband has a tendency to be very messy and create chaos wherever he goes. For years this drove me nuts and I would rail against him because I felt like he was treating me like a slave. Then one day it hit me (I did have a great transformational therapist help me get to this point) nobody forces me to clean up his mess and care for him like another child. I am choosing to because somewhere inside I think I should, and I nag rather than set boundaries for what I will and WILL NOT do. Now if my husband is getting too sloppy and I feel taken for granted I just tell him and ask for his assistance. If he doesn't clean up, then I don't either. In fact, I have stopped doing EVERYTHING before. I didn't cook him dinner, wash his work shirts, nothing. He noticed, asked what was going on and I calmly pointed out that I had already told him how I felt and been ignored, so I was now also going the ignoring route. He got the message and has been heaps better ever since. Now we mostly just laugh about his messiness and the fact that the house is always chaos on Sunday after two days of him being home! On that note, I really need to go tidy up a bit. The floor's disappearing. Kelly Robin, I swear I knew you were an Australian as soon as I saw your photo. Don’t know why, but it was an instant thought. Maybe it’s my trusty intuition - I can pick a fellow Aussie and Kiwi in a crowd of other nationalities, even without hearing an accent.

But back to this post, love the picture of you and Frank. You look sos serene - really beautiful energy there. And I use your trick too. I call it the mirror. I’ve had a lot of frustrations with my family over the years and I’ve used this technique to move our relationship to a level where I don’t feel like my emotions are at their mercy.

I also find boundaries and expectations are important, particularly in romantic partnerships. My husband has a tendency to be very messy and create chaos wherever he goes. For years this drove me nuts and I would rail against him because I felt like he was treating me like a slave. Then one day it hit me (I did have a great transformational therapist help me get to this point) nobody forces me to clean up his mess and care for him like another child. I am choosing to because somewhere inside I think I should, and I nag rather than set boundaries for what I will and WILL NOT do.

Now if my husband is getting too sloppy and I feel taken for granted I just tell him and ask for his assistance. If he doesn’t clean up, then I don’t either. In fact, I have stopped doing EVERYTHING before. I didn’t cook him dinner, wash his work shirts, nothing. He noticed, asked what was going on and I calmly pointed out that I had already told him how I felt and been ignored, so I was now also going the ignoring route. He got the message and has been heaps better ever since. Now we mostly just laugh about his messiness and the fact that the house is always chaos on Sunday after two days of him being home!

On that note, I really need to go tidy up a bit. The floor’s disappearing.

Kelly

]]> By: Robin http://letsliveforever.net/2008/07/a-magic-trick-for-relationships/#comment-239 Robin Sun, 27 Jul 2008 04:32:03 +0000 http://letsliveforever.net/?p=65#comment-239 @Bill - I agree with you about relationships - they are utterly and entirely worth it (as long as the connection is a healthy one). And thanks for bringing up the point that there is a difference between taking responsibility for something and blaming yourself. @Karl - Hi there and welcome! Yes - I think you're right when you say "When we ask ourselves how can we change instead of the person that we are in the relationship with, it makes for personal growth instead of constant pain." And thanks for sharing your technique! @Rajesh - Hi and welcome to this blog! Thanks for your comment - I appreciate it. @Bill - I agree with you about relationships - they are utterly and entirely worth it (as long as the connection is a healthy one). And thanks for bringing up the point that there is a difference between taking responsibility for something and blaming yourself.
@Karl - Hi there and welcome! Yes - I think you’re right when you say “When we ask ourselves how can we change instead of the person that we are in the relationship with, it makes for personal growth instead of constant pain.” And thanks for sharing your technique!
@Rajesh - Hi and welcome to this blog! Thanks for your comment - I appreciate it.

]]> By: Rajesh http://letsliveforever.net/2008/07/a-magic-trick-for-relationships/#comment-236 Rajesh Sat, 26 Jul 2008 20:33:53 +0000 http://letsliveforever.net/?p=65#comment-236 Sharing you own experience is excellent. Great. Rajeshs last blog post..<a href="http://rajeshmsharma.blogspot.com/2008/07/what-is-enlightenment-nirvana-samadhi.html" rel="nofollow">What is Enlightenment / Nirvana / Samadhi</a> Sharing you own experience is excellent. Great.

Rajeshs last blog post..What is Enlightenment / Nirvana / Samadhi

]]> By: Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matters http://letsliveforever.net/2008/07/a-magic-trick-for-relationships/#comment-235 Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matters Sat, 26 Jul 2008 20:29:57 +0000 http://letsliveforever.net/?p=65#comment-235 When we ask ourselves how can we change instead of the person that we are in the relationship with, it makes for personal growth instead of constant pain. I like to use this technique when there are dishes in the sink. I try to either accept them, ask her to do it or clean them myself. All depending on my mood. Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matterss last blog post..<a href="http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/07/26/what-working-happy-is-all-about/" rel="nofollow">What Working Happy is All About</a> When we ask ourselves how can we change instead of the person that we are in the relationship with, it makes for personal growth instead of constant pain. I like to use this technique when there are dishes in the sink. I try to either accept them, ask her to do it or clean them myself. All depending on my mood.

Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matterss last blog post..What Working Happy is All About

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